Life from HELL
I am so relieved to read on here that I am not the only one. I don't even know where to begin. My husband is depressed and has 4 biological children (ages 17, 12, 9 and 4). I have 3 biological children (ages 7, 5, 5). All but one lives with us full time (his oldest sometimes lives with her grandparents because she got tired of all the bullshit - and I don't blame her). I have a 9 year old SS who says, "f--- you", "c-ck sucker," flips me off and beats up all the kids in the house. I am a social worker and I was worried social services would be called for all the bruises my 5 year old had on him! I took the child to therapy and for the most part he has gotten better about not leaving bruises, but still pushes and shoves and sometimes kicks. My 7 year old daughter says she hates that she gets beat up in the house. My 12 year old SS once tried to break the window in the pickup and called me a "b----" as we were driving because I smacked his leg to give me a water bottle, which he refused to give me (I was trying to make sure the kids would stop to pee every 15 min so didn't want them to have the water and asked nicely - and with a raised voice - for it several times). The older kids all baby the 9 year old (who is a cruel and mean spoiled brat), as does my husband. My husband grew up in an alcoholic home and felt like the scapegoat for everything. He feels like my 9 year old SS is now that scapegoat and tries to make him feel better by not being harsh. My husband is withdrawing more and more from me and taking the kids' side more and more. I feel like I am not respected and not backed up. My husband has a complex about women always leaving him and assumes I will to. We've come to the point where I am not going to discipline his 9 year old because it always escalates, but I feel like his 9 year old got exactly what he wants then. I am a loving parent and have been very patient through all of this. My husband and I have gone to counselors and I don't feel like he takes much into consideration. He lets his kids run the show and allows them to play rated M video games and watch rated R movies (all except the 4 year old). I have fought with him over this until I am blue in the face. We did get married very quickly. I don't want to give up on our family and I love all of them, but I am worried that I am losing a little piece of myself every day and worry about my biological children who are being influenced by this horrible behavior. HELP!!!! Feel free to ask any questions!!!!