I'm so tired of BM and her family, and now skids bad mouthing everything I do simply because skids do get everything they want or have rules to follow.
I have raised my skids FT for 11 years. BM is in and out of rehabs, jail, marriages and boyfriends...skids have not seen her for more than 30mins-1hour at a time for the past two years (their choice). Yet, the minute something doesn't happen the way skids want it to, I am to blame, even if I had nothing to do with whatever maybe going on.
I've been called every filthy name imaginable by BM. I've been accused of "mistreating" skids by BM and skids. If I step back and let DH handle any/everything to do with skids I hear "she treats bios better than she does skids" if I step up and handle a situation I hear "she's not their mother" or "she's mistreating us".
There seriously is no way to win at the stepmom game. It's so hard to continue doing for people who don't appreciate all the hard work it takes in a blended family.