Just need to vent. Toxic BM (very long)
I really wish my husband would just drop rope. He won't so excuse my constant complaining. We are going to talk to our family therapist tomorrow. This is not a life I want to live. I think we have the most toxic BM. She's so manipulative and she's so proud of herself.
So, we go out of town to my SS baseball tournament. We get an Airbnb and DH and SS go and do their thing with his team and me and my kids go do our thing. Then we were going to go to the tournament to watch SS but it got rained out. Oldest SS stayed with his mom because he had a game in town. The plan was that DH was going to grab him Sunday after the tournament since they stay with us until Monday. The reason SS stayed in town was so he didn't have to drive back and forth there and back. (On sat I was going to stay with youngest and DH was going to take oldest to his game and drive back) So SS did not want to drive so he stayed with mom. Sunday comes and guess who shows up at the tournament? Yup BM and SS. He couldn't drive down and back in one day with dad but he could with mom? Oh and she didn't even tell DH they were coming (it's his parenting weekend) So, youngest SS was sitting with DH and BM walks over and starts saying to SS "what's wrong? Are you okay?? What's going on here?? Come with me!" SS was like "nothing is wrong, I'm fine" literally NOTHING was wrong. Wtf is she doing?? So we have had an issue with BM not giving all of SS's school supplies so DH has to go back in the morning with kids to grab stuff. Our attorneys wrote a letter and once again. SS came to the game but didn't bring his stuff so instead of DH taking him from there he drove back with his mom to her house to grab his school stuff and she dropped him off. By the time they got here at 9:30! (DH got home at 8:00 there was no reason it took them that long) SS was all pissed off stomping around the house because she told him DH "forced him to come here" instead of just staying at her house. Youngest SS was pisses off because DH made him do laundry and take a shower. Yes you heard that right. Why should his royalty have to do his own laundry. They are awful! Also, my kids got into a bad fight on Saturday night and crossed the line and broke the house rules of no cursing at each other so their consequence was that they lost going to the Sunday game and I took them home. I'm sure SS is going to tell her alllllll about it.
While we were there. She OFW'ed my husband literally 5 times with paragraphs full of nothing but her opinion of him, why didn't he stay at the hotel with the team? Asking about getting older SS a car even though he's a year away from driving, asking about this and that and so much shit. She told him "I am going to start using OFW because of your recent diagnosis of autism I am sure you are so overwhelmed and can't handle much so I will use it to help you for the benefit of our kids" I mean, sick!!! His diagnosis has NOTHING to do with using OFW. She's abusive. But this isn't harassment?? I don't get it.
We managed to put her crap to the side but the difficult part is when it gets to the kids and it effects our entire house. DH didn't allow them to be disrespectful but we are just all exhausted from their crap. He's embarrassed that they act like this. My kids said hi and they just walk by, DH told them to say hello. But it's just constant and I'm so sick of it. Something has to change. They think they are the most important people in the universe and she puts soooooo much crap in their head, she will not agree to therapy because she gets called out on her crap so she fired them and we can't even find one at this point that is taking clients (we specifically need one who specializes in high conflict/parental alienation)
I'm living a nightmare. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm just done with it all.