I feel guilty about how I feel
My DH and I have custody of my daughters 8 and 10 from a previous marriage. They are their bio dad three weekends a month. So we raise them together, DH and I. He is basically their acting father while their bio dad just plays with them. What we have feels like a whole, complete family.
My DH has a 14 year old son from a past marriage. His birth mom is schizophrenic and untreated. Her whole family is this way. As a result, the boy is just weird. He doesn't know how to have conversations and doesn't know how to take turns and interrupts constantly. He stinks to high heaven because birth mom thinks deodorant causes cancer. He has no friends and has been moved schools twice for bullying. He spews information about video games like talking to the wall. He doesn't speak to me at all when he is here. He has to have 100% of DH's undivided attention when he is here. I mean for days he expects DH to sit next to him from sunrise to bedtime playing video games. He cries out, "Dad! Dad!" Constantly to make sure he has his attention. He cuddles with his dad like a very young child. He is like this void which sucks out all the energy and I absolutely hate it when he is here. I feel like I might as well leave the house because it's like I'm not even here.
he has not gotten so where every single damn day he begs for DH to play video games with him online and DH feels guilty for refusing. So he brought him over here last night and tonight he played online with him and the little shit is going to be here all weekend. Meanwhile, me and my girls who wanted him to go for a walk with us or have dinner with us were just shit out of luck.
I hate this kid. The more attention he gets the more he wants. He doesn't blend with our new family. He ignores us and finds ways to suck up all of his dad's attention every time he can get it. DH doesn't recognize any of this as abnormal or him needing help. I got pissed tonight because my own girls wanted to go for a walk and to have a fire outside together but we were completely ignored so he could play video games online after he did that last night with him and will do it all weekend.
I feel bad that I feel this way but I can't stand this kid and I can't stand the way his dad doesn't do anything to help him grow up or stop this.