How do I deal with the crazy ex wife and her little minions??
Someone please help me, any and all advice appreciated.
My husbands ex wife is getting crazier by the day! Here's the short of it. My husband and his ex split about two years before I even met him. We have been together for three, and now married for about 9 months. When I first moved in with him, we kind of knew the ex was having some jealousy issues with it because she uprooted the kids and moved an hour away from us. Everything was pretty quiet for a while, but these last couple months have been really crazy. She has started telling the children that I am the one who destroyed their family. She says I am the reason mom and dad aren't together anymore. She tells them that once we have a baby of our own, they will no longer be allowed at our house because that's our new family. She has threatened me twice now physically, for no reason. She constantly badmouths me and the kids father to them. Two weeks ago my husband and I took the kids on vacation, and she really went nuts. She was calling them every five minutes, asking if me and my husband were fighting. She was telling the kids to try to make us fight, to give me evil death stares, to try to make me cry, etc etc. Well obviously her psychotic immature behavior is affecting the way the kids treat me. Especially the 12 year old. She keeps telling her dad in front of me, that she wishes it was just her and him there. She tries to push me out of the way when I am walking next to him. She interrupts me everytime I am trying to talk to her dad. She punched me in the eye in the pool when I was swimming with her dad, even though she claims it was an accident I know it's not. She is constantly telling her dad she is jealous of me. I am just fed up and I don't care anymore. I have tried and tried with these kids. My husband just blames the crazy ex for their behavior, and always excuses it away. I think at 12 years old, she should know it's not okay to treat an adult this way. I just honestly don't even want to be around her anymore. Not to mention the fact that she is constantly lying and manipulating, she once made up a whole story about me being "abusive" to her that wasn't even true!! I have no bonding with this kid.
Will someone please tell me if I am in the wrong here or am being immature about this? Am I crazy to think that kids should be better behaved than this?
Any advice appreciated