HELP! Contemplating divorce because of husband’s ex wife
Looking for help from experienced step moms or step dads out there. I'm only 7 months into my marriage and seriously contemplating filing for divorce from my husband due to ongoing issues with his ex wife, which have now trickled down to my step children. The impact that all of the chaos is having on my biological son (14) & I is growing. Quick background: I'm 37 with a 14 year old son, my husband is 39 with 3 children from his 1st marriage, ages 9, 11, 13. It's been an ongoing battle between my husband and the ex wife from co parenting techniques (ex wife feels husband should call her vs. calling the kids, wants everything to be on her terms, etc). My husband wants very little to do with her due to her character, but has tried to remain cordial only to have it blow up in his face. This is why he started directly calling the kids (via their cell phones or house phone) to avoid unnecessary arguing with their mom. I've encouraged him to talk to the ex wife if she insists, but he dreads it and only does so when absolutely necessary. On to the next part, for her own reasons (still unbeknownst to me) she does not like me and chooses to act as if I don't exist. I've only met her once and since then have reached out respectfully asking if there's anything I could do to help make things easier for the kids and everyone involved in terms of coparenting only to be ignored. I'm fairly certain the children have been told things that aren't true about myself/my husband, as they now act very stand-offish towards me, and also to my son whom they used to have a great relationship with us both. It's all just becoming too much for me to bear. She's constantly threatening to go back to court to request more child support (although my husband has been paying as court ordered since the divorce and more). I feel like she has control over nearly every aspect of our life and is hell bent on making us miserable. The most saddening part is I'm worried about how all of this will affect my son. On top of being the breadwinner and taking care of the majority of our household expenses, I'm ready to move forward with my son and resume back to our happy and peaceful lives before I entered into this marriage. I don't feel that I have the support I need from my husband, and I've mentioned this to him many times. There are so many examples I could give, but figured I'd spare you all the time.
Please, please can someone give advice? I don't know if I'd be making a mistake but I feel I would have such a burden lifted off of me, and be able to enjoy my life again.
what do I do??