This is my first time posting to something like this so please extend patience with me. I am at my wits end with my boyfreind's son. I have been with my boyfreind for 5 years, I have a daughter 9 and he has a son who is now 7 almost 8. We have lived in a blended family for a little over 4 years. I really think this child hates me and my daughter. He does everything in his power to ruin family trips, control all situations, and make life hell during his visits. The sad thing is the father has no clue because the son will do this behind his back. In fact most of the time his father blames me that I can not get along with his son. On a side note I am not sure if I am more frustrated with the father not supporting me in this situation or with the son. The son is taking things to the extremes he knows he can, the father is a grown up.
The father is in the other room, the son will draw on my daughter's headboard, call her dumb, pick a fight with me, or throw something. This is just the tip of the iceberg, I am not sure what to do anymore. Anything to get her in trouble or irritate me he will pull. I have punished him, pleaded with him, threatened to take everything (tv, dsi, wii) away, but nothing I have done has worked. We recently had a family meeting in which I said flat out that my daughter and I will leave if this is not resolved. The son sat and said he was mad at me for yelling at him and we all said this will stop. It did not the next visit he called my daughter dumb and fat when the father went out of the room. He started another fight with me in which I took his dsi away and he started yelling again, to wake his father.
I love his father but I am afraid I will have to end this relationship and move out if this does not get resolved. Does anyone at all have some type of advice or is going through a similar situation?