Drained after winter break... manipulation? or red flags? Help!
Good morning everyone! Happy new year! lets hope for a better one...RIGTH??
Ok, we had SD9 from the 27th to yesterday... and God help me, I am drained... It wasn't as bad as I pictured it to be, but she is so needy and just...exhausting!... She felt the need to share A LOT about BM and what is going on in their foreclosure palace, BM has a 6 month old baby and she is pregnant again...SD9 busted into tears at breakfast 4 days ago, she was acting very funny, very silent, so I asked her what was going on? and she just let it alllll out, by all I mean, this kid usually is very secretive because her mom drills her against us... but anyway, she told us her mom is pregnant yet again, and she ran to the courthouse at some point and got married to the baby daddy (mine you, this is the truck driver she was dating, got pregnant with, kicked out, took back all while calling my husband worthless and "ghetto" for having 3 kids in a 3 room house) anywayyyyyyyyy this was just the beginning of this long arsss laundry list of complains, she told us her mom and SD want her to move to the room in the basement (horror, BM send DHS to our house because SD and BD6 share rooms!!), she said she is her mom's maid, that mom is acting lazy, and that her mom is calling her fat all the time, asking her to suck her tummy, and telling her her face is round and fat...it went on and on and on... I was sitting there, looking at her like WTH? why are you sharing this with me? ...basically she said she needed to vent, because she feels her mom doesnt like her, because she is fat and because her mom is popping babies none stop, so she doesn't get any attention...she also had the need to say that her mom hates me bacuse I marry her "ex boyfriend" and because i am not fat...REALLY?! how do you think is a good idea to tell all this to your child!?
After this conversation, she was very needy, wanting to hug me all the time, tattle telling on my BD6 all the freaking timeeee almost like trying to make brownie points... RED FLAG...I would never allow this kid to move here! not until her dad parents her! my DH is a great parent to my children, but he is a playmate to his kid and she is noisy, mean and manipulative...
Of course as a mom and sane adult, I feel horrible for the kid, she does have a serious weight issue (110 pounds at 9 year ) and eats NONE stop, she eats twice as much as I do... but I would never call her fat, or pick on her... is this an attention cry or manipulation? I feel like my husband is going to ask me anytime to "go to court and try to get her full time" .... I don't think I can handle that!
Some of you know my record with this kid, she lies a lot, some of the things she said about her mom don't surprise me at all... some realllyyy do...I am not sure what to think...
what do you guys think ?