First time posting!! Not so much blended related but is to a degree. Been together with SO for over 2 years. Engaged in December and moved into his house in January and just bought a house together last month. Things are going really well. We had a lot of really tough times the last couple of years with his ex and kids but things are much better.
As far as my end. My ex and SO get along well, we coparent well together and my kids have a wonderful relationship with SO and their step siblings.
But of course in this blended family craziness, there’s always something! Lol! So here’s our struggle right now. My youngest daughter who is 11 has always had a lot of anxiety. It got worse after my ex and I spilt up. It’s been 3 years and it seems like it’s just got worse. She worries about getting cancer, about SO and I breaking up (she’s scared she will lose another family in her words) she worries about every ache and pain, she worries when her dad travels or she can’t get in touch with him that he was killed in a plane crash, or accident, she thinks if something bad happens it’s because she had a feeling it would happen, she’s scared to go to sleep at night because we could have a fire or someone could break in. I could go on and on but you get the picture. We have done therapy but she doesn’t really talk, she does talk to all of us so that’s good and we try to control with meditation ect and we finally started medication. My ex was worried about her being on something because of her age but he has seen how bad it has gotten so he finally said I was right and agreed.
this is were it gets so sad, her latest is she’s scared SO isn’t really the nice guy she has grown to love after learning why her best friends dad went to jail (child porn) this was before they were friends but she heard it through the grape vine and I have always taught her that you don’t always know who can be a bad person or not while talking about safety now it’s biting me in the ass. My girls adore him and she said he has never done anything that made her uncomfortable but if nobody knew about her friends dad then how can we be sure SO isn’t “pretending” to be a good guy. (he’s the only other man in her life besides her dad and she even questioned if I felt her dad was a good guy. Yes, yes he is!) Her dad, 14 year old sister and myself have reassured her she has nothing to worry about but once again her anxiety has taken her to a dark place. SO is so hurt but handling it very well. I am just so upset over this! I feel so bad for her AND SO! As I’m typing this she just called me to ask if the dogs were okay because she’s worried they ran into the street and got hit by a car and died. I’m in tears! This is so awful. Does anyone have a kiddo with severe anxiety? I’m at a loss!