Blended family molestation...
So, I don't need to be judged here, but I need to vent & some advice for maybe someone who has been through this before.
My 12-year old SS sexually abused my 7-year old daughter. She told me & I told my husband. He brought the SS over to the house & my DH and I sat down & questioned him about what happened. I was furious. I couldn't hide my distrust & disgust when he looked at me. He did cry during the confrontation, I didn't yell, but I did inform him that what he did was against the law (he claimed to not know about it being illegal). I did tell him flat out that if he was ANYONE else, besides my ss, I would report his ass in a second....even though I probably should have reported it in hindsight, it would've caused soooo many more issues with my DH I made the mistake of telling my sister & mother, after I told my DH I wouldn't tell anyone what happened. As a punishment for the SS, I had DH inform BM of what happened with her son & my DD.
Somehow, 2 days before SS is supposed to show up for the weekend, with the 3 other Skids, I get a call from CPS. My daughter needs to be interviewed by them before she is supposed to be around SS again. My husband is livid (and that's describing it lightly). He hasn't talked to me for 2 days becuase I couldn't keep my mouth shut. He says he cant trust me now. I really really hope that it was the BM trying to be manipulative again, turning it into CPS (like...a way that the SS won't be allowed over here anymore because she hates having the kids visit their father), or I thought it might be BM's new husband, he absolutely despises the SS that did this, so i thought maybe a way to get him in super trouble would be to do this. I don't know who did it & the cps worker couldn't tell me of course.
I guess it's really hard for me to accept the fact that my DH is upset with ME for something his SS did...yes, i broke his trust by talking to my mother & sister, but at the same time, his son is the one who started this whole mess. This whole mess is because of HIS SON! He really doesn't like me telling him that. I think the ss needs major counseling, there was a little incident with his own sister like a year ago, and he couldn't share a room with her anymore, and had to switch with one of his brothers. I think before it gets to be a bigger habit, ahd before he does it to another child, he NEEDS THE HELP. I think it's a good thing.
I never had any intentions that when I talked to my sister/mother that they would possibly be responsible for reporting it.
I have no idea what the normal procedure for this kind of thing is...or what will happen to the SS...anyone have any news/advice/anything for me?