To blend, or not to blend?
I'm wondering how other blended families manage finances. We have a joint account that we use for household items, and separate accounts for everything else. I have a good relationship with my skids, and have no problem paying for them whenever they're with me. We've been together for almost five years and have had no issue with how we've handled things so far.
Has anyone done this kind of system successfully term? DH is opposed to blending finances. On the whole, this benefits me as he has two kids, (I have one and don't pay child support) child support payment and pays pretty much all the special expenses. He earns more than I do but after all that is factored in, I have more disposable income. I think his main objection is that he would have to consult me on activities, expenses etc for the kids if we were a blended income family. I feel like this is an odd approach in a long term relationship but perhaps it's just practical in a step situation?
Should I just be grateful that he doesn't want me to pay for his kids and leave well alone? There are situations when expenses arise for them (they're close in age), for example they both needed braces at the same time. He paid but was struggling to do it. I would have been happy to help but he wouldn't accept it. I'm kind of in two minds about it because I don't think this is really how a family should operate. I wouldn't expect him to help with my child but in the same situation it would be nice to have support. He tries to do everything by himself.