I am tired...no, make that I am exhausted.  My problem stems from my boyfriend of 4 years, his ex, and their 9 year old daughter.  The ex and I have never been friendly-she has tried to beat me up and just talks down about me to her daughter and my boyfriend (her ex).  There are definitely boundary issues and I have tried to address them but I am always found to be the problem.

When my bf's daughter comes over it is utter chaos.  He does not parent her consistently; he speaks down to me in front of her; and I am expected to be a taxi, free babysitter, etc. to this child.  Just yesterday I had asked my bf's daughter if she could watch a tv show in her bedroom because my mom who has been staying with us wanted to watch a Law and Order episode.  His daughter had been watching her YouTube shows all day so I spoke with my bc and he said to tell his daughter to read or watch tv in her room.  I did as he told me and then started the law and order show for my mom.  I was busy getting a snack for my toddler and figured that since I told his daughter to go to her room she would.  WRONG!!! She never went to her room and my bc came into the kitchen screaming at me that his daughter was watching an inappropriate show.  I did exactly what he said and I feel as though he should have reprimanded his daughter and not me. I had told her what her dad said to do and I am the one to blame and to be screamed at.  Also, since his ex's car broke down I am expected to be a taxi.  If I say no to babysitting or driving his daughter somewhere he belittled me and kicks my daughter and myself out of the home.  He tells me it is not my home, it's his daughters home.  
 

I could write 1,000 pages of crazy crap that had gone on but I'm just so tired-mentally:emotionally.  I have repeatedly asked not to be dragged into my bf and his ex's issues such as childcare, etc. because I am not allowed to say no.  I help out a lot but I think I should be able to say no if I have plans.  I'm really thinking about moving with my bf and my daughter because I am sick of the constant drama I get dragged into.  The worst part yesterday was that he walked up to his 9 year old daughter saying she did nothing wrong.  Like hello-she doesn't listen..please someone tell me I am not this awful, horrible person.