Anxiety over the unknown
Hi everyone. I lurk around a lot but rarely ever post. Recently I am finding myself more and more concerned with a what-if scenario involving my youngest stepdaughter. DH and I have been together since both SDs were very young, and have one bio child together. Both SDs are teens, one graduating soon. The oldest went through the typical emotional, awkward teenager phase and seems to have come out of it for the most part. She still seems to want to come around and generally has a good attitude. The youngest is becoming more and more distant, especially after DH has to correct her over anything. The standards in our houses are very different and we think she gets to do whatever she wants at bio moms house as long as she keeps her grades up. Anyway, I am concerned that she is eventually just not going to want to come around anymore because we expect more from her than her mother seems to. She's a good kid- we just require more responsibility of her in my opinion. I love her and treat her as one of my own, and her half sister would be devastated if she stopped coming around. Not to mention, it would crush DH. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you and your spouse and bio kids cope?