Am I being irrational about BM's requests?
I am at loss, BM recently got fired/laid off from her job and now is hounding us about putting her on health insurance. They have already signed their divorce papers and its a matter of formality. She thinks because she is the mother of his kids, she is entitled to be on his insurance, mind you they have been separated for 2.5 years and we are expecting our first child in June (she doesn't know about it as yet but will in 10 days when its official). Why can't she seek other alternatives like Medicaid?
She also asked for the house which he gave her because they have three kids together, now because of her job loss, she wants him to cosign to help her refinance, again can't she seek other alternatives like family members. We want to purchase a house of our own later this year (which is why we decided to give her the house) and we are planning a destination wedding, I don't want to inherit that debt and have a continuous link to this woman.
Once we get the papers in 10 days I feel like I should finally step in and tell her that she needs to lay off that it is over between her and DH and that she needs to find another support system. She also sends him emails about how stressed out she is over her job loss, he doesn't respond to her but again doesn't she have friends she can talk to about this? We are not her rescue plan everytime something goes wrong with her. We are tight with money ourselves. I already told DH that if she agrees to any of these requests, I am leaving, no negotiations. I will not come back. He agreed that this is not what he wanted also but I wish he would be more direct with her and tell her to go to hell.