Accused of picking on your skid?
In talking with FH about SS10 reverting to being difficult, non-compliant, disobedient and generally contrary, FH told me that there are times it sounds like I'm picking on SS10 and that I find fault with everything he says or does. He wasn't defending his bad behavior but making an observation of his own. I don't think I'm picking on SS10 when I correct his grammar (I do this with DD11, how else do you learn? my mom an grandmother did the same with me). When he belches out loud or farts in the car when we've talked about NOT doing this, I reprimand him. When he leaves lights on, drawers open, cabinets open, fridge open, milk out on the counter etc., I tell him to turn off, close, put back etc. When he leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor (having been told numerous times to not), I make him stop what he's doing and go pick them up. When he says something that shows he mixed up the facts or is under the wrong assumption, I enlighten him. If DD11 did these things, my response would be the same. I told FH that I step in and say things that need to be said because he doesn't always. For background, SS10 lives with us full time with the exception of a year's worth of EOW at BM's which is still in effect. DD11 lives with us full time, no EOW with her dad but rather weekly visitation of a few hours per.
Have you been accused of picking on you skid? Am I picking on SS10 or am I just being a parent?