When is childish behavior age based or personality based?
Sometimes I have a hard time understanding the difference between behavior that represents a selfish, inconsiderate child or behavior that's pretty typical for a particular age. My fiancé is very consistent in correcting whining, talking back, etc but I just wonder how much is age based and how much is character or personality based? Of course a two year old is going to throw temper tantrums, we expect that. But when and how long are growing children given a pass for certain responses that wouldn't be tolerated as an adult in the 'real world' ? I.e whining and crying when you don't get your way ... expected for a 4 year old but hopefully there are other redeeming qualities because I'd never hang out with an adult who literally cried over what show to watch? It kind of sounds like I don't like children which isn't the case, more that I don't like childish behavior.
Are there different feelings and thoughts on this based on if you're a step or bio parent?