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Reservations about moving in with BF and his 5 year old

Kolendbl's picture

SteppedOut's picture


Goodluck's picture

When in doubt---DO NOTHING. That means DO NOT MOVE IN.

Look at everything clearly and NOT with day dreams..ohhhh if I move in it will be better with time. OHhhhhh the sex is soooooooooooooooo great and I know everything will be ok.

He is amazingggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg LOL


ESMOD's picture

haha... yeah... 5 year old.. lol.  

That can definitely be a challenge and it is not a step to be taken lightly.

WHY do you have to do that now?


Kolendbl's picture

Well we don’t HAVE to do it immediately. However I pay a lot in rent for a house I no longer reside in basically as I stay at his house every night. So we figured to set ourselves up to buy a new house it might be smart to make it official so I can put my rent $$$ towards our savings. We both just feel we’ve waited so long to find each other we want to start our life together ASAP... 

hereiam's picture

Oh, you met online, okay. Sorry, but you still don't know him. I know you THINK that you do....

Aniki's picture

I know all too well how you can meet someone online and everything seems awesome! Until you meet in person AND learn firsthand what they are really like. 

Petronella's picture

Chatting online is not “meeting” a person. 

You met in May 2019. Be real.

susanm's picture

An online relationship does not tell you how you will actually live with someone.  Not even a little bit.

Harry's picture

This child will always come first,  you are only needed for a babysitter who he has sex with. 

You keep getting the same advice, He will always put his DD above your relationship.  In stead of parenting his DD he gives in to her.  This will never change. You will be the third wheel.  Only doing what his DD wants,  as she gets older it’s only going to get worst.  You will be paying for this side show. 

Curious Georgetta's picture

a child after only  4 months.. You may want to give your self more time to get

to get to know  him. A  strong love can stand the test of  time.

You lose nothing by giving yourself time to get to know him better and time to nurture this relationship.