In Love with a Single Mom but Not In Love With Her Kids
I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man. He's hands down everything I could ask for and the feeling is mutual aside from one aspect. He is not sure if he'll ever be ready to take on the role of SD. Now to be clear, I'm not pushing for us to move in together, get married, or have kids; additionally I've explained that I simply need a supportive partner. As for the kids, they really just need a positive male role model. Someone who's going to show up; a person that will guide them, and help when they've fallen. Overall someone they can trust has their best interests at heart. I'm not looking for him to come in and cover their expenses or anything to that effect if that makes sense. I have two children and I'm divorced, their dad is not particularly involved in their lives outside of child support. My partner wants to work on changing his mindset and start getting comfortable with the idea of stepping into that role in the future, but it's got him pretty nervous despite my telling him I'm in zero rush. Do any of you have advice for how you became comfortable with stepping into the role of SD and how long it took you to feel ready?