Just a late night rant
Is it normal for my fiancé to expect me to love his children as if I birthed them? I like to consider myself a loving, warm, and compassionate person but every time my fiancé tells me that I am a mother figure to his children, it severely overwhelms me. He expects absolutely nothing of me (ie doesn't ask me to carpool, make food, have any childcare responsibility, etc) but it feels like he's offended that I don't absolutely adore his children the way he does. When he speaks of me as their mother, he's solely talking about the love I have for them as if they're my own. That's just not reality. It's the equivalent of being set up on a blind date and from that first meeting, you're expected to love and cherish that stranger as if he's your husband. Um , no?
Im just wondering, is it appropriate to explain that my unconditional, sacrifice everything kind of love doesn't just appear over night? That doesn't mean we won't eventually grow a strong, unique bond ... but to me, SKs are people. I'm selective with who I spend my time with. Why does your child trump everything? Just because she's your entire world automatically means she has to be mine?
what I find interesting is that he once told me he would never adopt. Now, I want to dig in to that... he wouldn't adopt because it isn't his own yet I am expected to absolutely adore this child that isn't mine, just because she came from him?