How to handle the situation?
My partner has two children under the age of ten. We have been discussion moving in together, but I have yet to meet his children. I am very concerned about how to move forward as he has not informed his ex-wife, nor children that we are "an item". There's a relatively large age difference between the two of us, and I am worried about how how his ex will cope with the situation. They have a rather strained relationship already and they are still battling over custody(they've been divorced less than a year). I know how important his children are to him and I really don't want them to feel as if I'm "stealing" their father. I am willing to wait as long as it takes for the rest of the family to get used to the idea of us living together, hopefully without straining the relationship I have have with my partner. It's very important to me to try and move forward in a way that does not offend his ex-wife or upset his children. I have tried to ask him about how to precede, but he sais he doesn't really know how to tell his ex and that he's worried that she and her sister will try to ruin the relationship he has with his kids( they are both very meddling, tries to keep him away from his children and undermine him as a parent.).Any help or tips would be appreciated!