Christmas...and other issues.
Hello everyone! This is my first post, and I'm still learning the abbreviations and all, but I just need to vent, and I apologize for the length in advance.
Some background: I'm a male in my late twenties and I've been married to my 30y/o wife for 2 and a half years. We have been a couple since November of 2013. I have no kids, and I am a stepfather of SD8, and SS6. When we were first dating, I lived in a completely different state. I moved to her state where we had her kids for a week on week off. Their bio-dad is in the military and is now stationed in Florida, so we moved back to my home state where we now have the kids 24/7.
I want to start by saying that becoming a full time step dad was not something I ever imagned. I was naive enough to think that I would at least live a life where we had every other weekend off. It has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I am very much a freebird, and I love to live by the seat of my pants and experience as much as I can, my wife is the complete opposite. I love her so much, so I do everything I can to be what she needs. Ultimately, I do not enjoy being a step parent, but I love my wife so much I can't quit.
Earlier today, we found out that bio-dad is actually going to visit his kids for once. He will be here Dec 24 through the New Year. My wife suggested that we have him over for Christmas and watch the kids open presents together. I told her that I am not comfortable with this and I would rather not see him. This made her upset and she said something along the lines of "great now I have to choose between you or my kids." I suggested that he have them stay at his hotel on christmas eve, wake up and open presents with his kids, drop them off at our place so that we can open presents with them, and then he could pick them up at a later time. Still, she just replied "I'll just figure it out myself."
Should I feel like a bad person because I don't want to see her ex-husband, let alone spend part of Christmas with him?
I have a hard enough time being a step-parent in day to day life, and sometimes I wonder what I am doing and how I got here, but I just love her too much to give up...
I feel like I'm not asking for too much.