16-Year old from hell
Just found this site. I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman who is older than me and has two teenage kids, a boy and a girl. The boy lives with his dad and the girl lives with us. Let me start by saying that neither of them are angels, and they were young when my GF (H6 hereafter) got divorced from baby daddy. From what H6 tells me, baby daddy was never really in the picture when it came to raising the kids, and it was particularly difficult to raise them as a single mother in the military. Anyway, the boy (N) is easy to get along with, though he sometimes can be disrespectful to H6 though I make it a point to stop this behavior. The reason we are here though, is because the girl (M) is a HUGE pain to live with. H6 and I have been together for what will be 2 years in July, and since the start of the relationship (N has lived with his dad since before I came in to the picture) M has ALWAYS been disrespectful in some way, shape, or form to H6. If H6 buys the wrong kind of cereal, M ensures that H6 knows. If H6 doesnt cook for M right away, M makes it known that H6 is a bad mother and doesnt love M. Now, I come from a very humble background and understand the sacrifices a parent is able to make for their children. The fridge in my childhood home was empty as were the shelves, so I can appreciate what H6 does for her kids when she buys them whatever food they like. One thing that is an absolute trigger for me, is disrespect. I cannot stand it from anyone, especially someone who is living under the warmth of a roof that is provided to them, and does nothing, NOTHING, in return (i.e. help pick up after themselves, take their trash out, be grateful for what is given). M has always had trouble keeping friends, she always picks her friends based on "how pretty they are" (I know this because it is ALWAYS the first things she mentions about her girlfriends) and ends up burning the friendship to the ground either because she is VERY bossy, or because she just spends so much time with them to the point that they choose to not hang out with her anymore. Naturally, H6 makes it a point to invite her to wherever we are going, be it the horse barn, the store, anywhere and everywhere. This I dont so much mind, EXCEPT for when M is being a complete disrespectful bitch and DEMANDS H6 stop at a certain lace for food, even though there is food at home. The last couple of weeks is what this post is really about. Turns out M has been hanging out with the wrong crowd and has started to not only vape and smoke pot, but purchasing it and bringing it home. This past weekend, when she was confronted about this, H6 grounded her and took her phone and other things away, though the one thing that really, REALLY pissed me off was how M turned this entire thing, her being in trouble for making her own stupid decisions, on H6 and go as far as to say that H6 does not spend enough time with M and doesnt love her enough. I stayed out of the whole situation, because I dont care to be involved in a situation that I am not wanted in. M says she cares for me and blah blah blah, but she really could not give a flying fig about me and I can see that clearly. I can give multiple examples in which she has blamed me for her own mistakes. I did come in at a point during this weekend fight and saw that H6 was clearly at her wits end, she even said she hated M and did not want to live with her anymore. I told H6 that she cannot let M get in her head and blame her for the mistakes that M has made on her own accord, and to demand respect from M, because if anything, that is the least a good parent deserves. The way I see it, M is a spoiled bitch. H6 has given M everything she wanted from an iPhone 6 to $100 jeans, and so on and so forth, and H6 has failed to set boundaries and expectations to build proper character qualities within M. The one thing I did succeed in doing since me coming into the picture, is getting M to stop calling her mom a retard. And let me tell you, it was CONSTANT in the beginning, CONSTANT.