YSD pulled the same crap this Easter as last year
YSD and DH wanted to do an Easter video call on the weekend
DH insisted that I participate in this one
I have avoided all calls including video calls with YSD after her crappy treatment towards me last year this time (after not even acknowleding I was on the call with a hello or thank you for the Easter package I paid for in full, wrapped, arranged for DH to mail, etc.. let alone all the nice things said to DH and DH alone about how much they loved him and that he was the best yada yada)
But DH insisted YSD has been much better since then and nothing like that has happened again and that for this call, it would be appropriate for me to join in
So I agreed to say hello, Happy Easter, etc... but not much more than that
I sincerely thought as well that YSD wouldn't pull that same crap again. Yes I know, stupid me
The video call starts and there is SGD sitting in front of the camera and YSD in the background
DH & I both waive at SGD, smile, and we both say hello to her
SGD turns to YSD and says "Look Mommy my Papa? Grandpapa? Grandpa is waving at me!"
She wasn't sure what to call DH, but clear to me was that once again the only one that this child had been encouraged to acknowledge was DH
They open the package and SGD runs off, clearly bored at talking with us
YSD says to DH that this kid doesn't know what it's like much to have an actual party with people due to the last two year's having birthdays during a pandemic and that "the last party she had was at your place Dad"
Well, that party was at OUR place. We both own this home and seeing that DH is retired and I'm the only one paying the mortgage on it I would say the home is just as much mine as DH's.
And I not DH was the one that held the little dinner party for SGD. Bought everything including the cake, all food, decorations, hosted it and cleaned up after
Then YSD adds that she asked SGD about the party and if she "remembered the party at Grandpa's house"
YSD did thank us both for the gifts this year and ended with her usual "Love you both"....all just for the sake of convincing DH of course that she really isn't pulling the crap that she is
But more than obvious to me she is continuing the sneaky slimly games to alienate, humiliate and generally make me felel unimportant, unwelcome and unwanted
Good thing I'm on to her, good thing I refused to pay one dime of my hard earned money on her and her family for Easter this year nor will spend one dime on her or her family ever again
And good thing I'm so pleasantly disengaged from her now, she matters about as much to me as I apparently matter to her - not much!