Wild stepdaughter wants to move in
My stepdaughter is 27 and very unstable. She was 17 when me and her dad moved in together. At the time our son was less than a year old and my daughter was 10 (they are 11 and 20 now). My 19 year old stepson also lived us (now 29). In these past 10 years, my stepdaughter has had two children and countless abortions. She had first daughter at 18 while living with us. That child is nine years old now and we have had custody since she was 2. She had a second daughter at 20 while living with the baby's father and this child is now seven and lives with her father. My stepdaughter does not see either of the girls. She used to see her oldest regularly because we had custody and she would visit. But she moved to Florida over a year ago and we are in PA so my grand-daughter doesn't see her and really misses her. Her other daughter only knows her as her birth mom.
So currently my stepdaughter is unhappy in Florida and wants to move back - with us. She has worked as a stripper since she was 19 and had made little effort to do anything else. The club fired her, she has been kicked out of her apartment and is pregnant again by her latest boyfriend. I have a feeling she is intending the carry this pregnancy to term. Before she moved she had the issues of being fired from clubs and getting kicked out of her apartments. All of her relationships are stormy and she has absolutely no boundaries. She's had adult service ads online, made videos, etc. She's just a mess and I don't want that under my roof.
She'll call her father with her 'woe is me' sob stories and he falls for it. He almost bought her a train ticket to come back here! He feels sorry for her and thinks he can save her. She never had rules!! It's too late now. I told him we're already helping by raising her child, she should be able to handle the rest. He feels like he's turning his back on her, but I can't help that. He needs to find another way to help her that doesn't directly affect us. I've very protective of my peace and my sanity.
Anyone dealing with adult step kids wanting to move in?