When Does "It's the thought That Counts" end as an excuse for cheap, lousy insulting Gifts?
Let's discuss the meaning and etiquette of gift giving. What it means, what it says about the giver and the receiver, etc.
Christmas is coming and I have to say, that even in counseling my DH still believes that "it is the thought that counts" in Twit giving lousy presents. Now I am not meaning giving someone an ugly Christmas sweater, or tie. I mean things that are used, dirty, Good Will, Garage Sale, Bernie's Bargain Basement junk. Things that one probably couldn't resell at a garage sale.
And I am also talking about adults that make over 6 figures a year.
For me, call me crazy on this as my husband does, I love to go out and find something that the receiver of my gift would like, something nice and perhaps think about me when they wear or use it. Doesn't have to be the Hope Diamond, or a gold bar, a Mercedes, etc., but something that they would like and is their style etc. But I do not believe gifts should be used, damaged, smell, or are just plain old junk like my Twit gives.
We all know what Twit's idea of a gift for me is, and frankly I don't want to even be around at Christmas and be treated like that. I want to scream at her: Keep your smell stuff yourself! Even more insulting is when it gets wrapped so beautifully, in expensive wrapping paper and ribbons, etc.
DH still says I am being petty. I say if it is the thought that counts and the gift is carp, then that is what they think of you. In counseling he has even said that she buys me carp because she doesn't know what I would like and....get this....don't appreciate what she does give me.
DH says that when I give someone something nice I am expecting something nice in return. That is not so, but when I get carp, well that is totally different. Neither I, nor the counselor was able to make him see differently.
And, I just don't want to be around or get any carp from Twit as it is so upsetting to me. Frankly, if my own daughter gave me a nicely wrapped box with old chewed up pop pearls in it I would be insulted as well.
Let's discuss the meaning and etiquette of gift giving.
One more thing. This was counseling during the summer. But with the frost in the air and all the Twit nonsense I am just thinking I don't want to deal with this again.
We are going to my daughter's for Thanksgiving. My daughter won't get up, wouldn't dream of getting up, before the meal is over to go after bargain big screen TV's for her children etc, and just leave.