At what point do you stop?
This is a real question that pertains to both me and my DH. One of his daughters has always had a very rejecting relationship with him. Yet he continues to hang in through it all. Mercifully she lives thousands of miles away and he has not seen her in close to 3 years. I even offered to pay airfare for her and boyfriend but was turned down. That should tell you something? The last time we saw her we had to drive her 3 hours somewhere. That was a doozy. She sat in the front passenger seat me driving DH in backseat. She put on sound canceling head phones for the WHOLE car ride.
She now has a child that is 2 1/2. DH has never seen and not even on FaceTime much. He's always calling her maybe gets a response once month?
With me, one of my kids is also very rejecting. He does have spectrum issues is closer with my ex than me. I hate to say it but my ex takes him and his SO out to fancy dinners. We see him for holidays and that's it. I try calling. He doesn't answer even if I text. He is sullen and miserable at the dinner table. I don't chase him. Maybe I should but life is too short. It was hard raising a child who gave nothing back. Does that sound harsh? He lived here until 19.
DH is a better person than I am.