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Well It Happened --- Drunkie was found totally unresponsive and taken to hospital

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Prayers, folks for the kid.

Twit's hubby called just a bit ago. He and Twit are at the hospital. Drunkie apparently, as usual, got a stash going and they found him completely unresponsive and called 911. Twit is beside herself and wanted to talk to DH but she was sobbing so hard he couldn't understand her.

Gawd, what an awful thing.

I told DH that if he wanted to go down to the hospital I would go with him. This is a serious situation. Needless to say, Twit's husband was also quite upset, heck, who wouldn't be at a time like this.

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Thanks hereiam. I hope so too. What I didn't put in was that according to Twit's husband, Drunkie is on antidepressants and they found him unresponsive with booze bottle! Ummm, antidepressants and booze do NOT go together, no way, no how.

hereiam's picture

What he needed was that medication that helps alcoholics stop drinking.

Of course he's depressed, he's an alcoholic with no life. Anti-depressants are not what he needs, certainly not while he's still drinking.

What a mess. I'm sorry you all are having to deal with this.

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This part I don't understand. Seems Twit took Drunkie to counseling and he was put on antidepressants! What the h*ll!!! Nothing like giving someone who has a drinking problem antidepressants. Twit's hubby thinks he may be having a reaction to the antidepressants and the booze.

WHAT THE H*LL IS WRONG WITH THOSE TWO!!

I don't believe a counselor, of course I don't know if it was a counselor for alcoholism or not, would give someone with a serious drinking problem these and then send him home and tell him not to drink. Drinking IS the problem!!

Honestly, DH is beside himself right now. At first he was pacing and now is sitting on the sun porch just staring, thinking, worrying about the kid.

I advised him not to go to the hospital now as Drunkie is being taken care of in ER, unless he wants to sit with Twit etc. He says he will wait until he hears back from Twit's husband before he goes any where. Good idea.

notasm3's picture

Any possibility that it could be drugs also. There's some bad heroin going around that is killing people. So sorry for you, your DH and the boy.

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You know, notasm, it could be. Unfortunately alcoholics also tend to do drugs.

Twit's hubby is suppose to call when he gets information as Drunkie is in the ER right now.

I have to say it....if something happens to Drunkie, I am going to unleash the wrath of nature on Twit because she enabled it. I tend to be pretty cool in handling things, but not about this, and when it comes to something like this, she needs to HEAR just what is going on and that it is HER, and her HUSBAND's responsibility.

Even now Twit is all upset but for herself, not for Drunkie. The narcissist, psycho loon.

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Now I am going to be worrying all night about Drunkie. He deserves better than what he got as a Mother.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

And to be fair, his dad isn't going to win any FOTY awards, either. Twit's DH enables all of the dysfunction by ignoring it and burying himself in work.

Hopefully Drunkie will get the help he actually needs and this will be a wake up call for your SIL, too.

twoviewpoints's picture

I do hope he pulls through. Yes, sending up prayers for him, you and your DH. I am so sorry.

And I'll send one up for Twit and Twit's husband in the hopes that this terrible experience and very close call wakes those two parents. That from here on they truly help their son instead of all the enabling.

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Sigh, sadly this is what happens since Twit feels she can control everything. DH told her months ago that Drunkie needed to go into rehab, that it was time for tough love.

Oh, she was going to take care of it. This is when she found out, because he kept passing out etc, that he has cirrhosis of the liver etc.

Her response was that treatment costs $$$. Umm, there is such a thing as insurance to help and Drunkie is still under 25 abiet just a few months to go.

But Twit knows all. Makes me SO ANGRY.

sandye21's picture

So sorry to hear it has come to this. As twoview wrote, maybe this will be a wake up call for Twit and SSIL. I know you want to tell Twit off but make sure you do it out of range of DH or he may fell sorry for her. Please keep us posted.

ownpersonalopinion1's picture

Have you ever watched one of those lifetime movies when a mother slowly poisons her child someway and lovingly cares for the child while nobody can figure how what's causing the sickness? It's got something with Wanting to be needed and appear such wonderful caring mother. That reminds me of twit.

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Good point. I remember when the young man got picked up for running off the road driving drunk. So what does the Twit do? Goes and gets him a lawyer and then goes out and gets him a big screen tv because he wants one! I remember being just flabbergasted when I heard about that. Talk about positive reinforcement for behaving badly.

All the time she was telling DH that with all the $$ she was spending on the lawyer Drunkie was going to pay her back. Drunkie wasn't working then, he has a very spotty work history even for his age.

DH told her that Drunkie wasn't going to pay her back what the lawyer was going to cost. Twit went off at him saying that he would. She spent well over $10,000+ on lawyer fees and the kid still got jail time and parole.

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Have you ever watched one of those lifetime movies when a mother slowly poisons her child someway and lovingly cares for the child while nobody can figure how what's causing the sickness? It's got something with Wanting to be needed and appear such wonderful caring mother. That reminds me of twit.

And this would happen now right before you move. Her mother needs to surface and check on them. Poor Dh. That's so sad when you said he was sitting and worrying. A alcoholic will drink if they want to and nobody can stop him. His situation may have agged it on.

Take care.

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Twit's Mother wants nothing to do with her and stays as far away as possible. In fact, Twit's siblings are the same way, they want as little or nothing to do with her. THEY all know.

Don't worry friends, we are going to a new area whether the GS is out of the hospital or not. Plans are made and, as DH said to me, Drunkie is her problem. I agree, but I so pray that someone will get him out of her clutches.

Bear with me as I write this. One looks back and see that Drunkie has been a problem for a long time. Got thrown out of high school for having drugs that he left on the front seat of his car. Was ordered to finish his GED, which he did, AND to attend one year of Technical College; which he didn't bother to show up much for and flunked almost everything (Twit cried one of those poor me sessions to DH about LOOK what she has to deal with).

He moved out and Twit cried that she wanted to kill herself because her BABIE had moved out and she needed him close by (what the h*ll?) Kid was involved with some bad dudes, ended up that they roughed him up (he had to have his jaw wired) and stole his electronics and back to Momma he went. And on and on it went.

sammigirl's picture

Sad Please keep us posted. So sorry for this hurdle. ((((hugs)))) to your family.

We lost a grandson one year ago to leukemia; after diagnosis he lived less than one year. He was 31 years old and just starting his career earnestly. It is so devastating.

Thinking of you and your DH.

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You know, heavenlike, I thought that too. Makes me wonder about a few things. Maybe it isn't an antidepressant who knows.

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Update --- Drunkie made it out of the woods and is in hospital. Twit called DH crying of course, to give him the update and started the ole poor her, look what she has to deal with, martyr routine which DH cut short with her.

He just finished telling her that if SHE doesn't get her act together on what is going on she is going to loose this young man. AND, and friends hear this, that if that happens he never wants to see or hear from her again!

Of course she went into an even stronger wailing bout, and probably would have hung up on DH (as she likes to do), but he beat her too it.

sandye21's picture

Good to hear he is pulling through. Sure hope he gets away from 'munchhousen-by-proxy' Twit! And good for your DH!!!! At least he is TRYING to help Drunkie.

Gimlet's picture

I'm so glad to hear he's going to be OK. I hope this was enough of a wake up call that the young man is willing to get real help.

I'm sorry he has this worthless, attention-seeking ninny for a mother.

ItsGrowingOld's picture

Yep, it can take decades like you said. My DH's daughter's stepdaddy is a drunk. He was in ICU for 4 days in 2009 with a BAC of 4.7. Doctors told him if he ever drank again he would surely die. Not sure if he's drinking again but I know his work history in the past year or so has gone downhill. Probably just a matter of time before something really bad happens. The writing is on the wall.

SDMC - it's a really good thing you are moving far away from this train-wreck. Physical distance really does help:-)