Update - DH blaming me now
I confronted DH tonight about him keeping a secret with SD (age 24) and texting her to not tell me that they went shopping together after xmas. DH blamed it all on me, said that my behaviors were causing him to keep secrets with SD, etc etc etc. I know this is not true and that he is being defensive and felt trapped because he had to admit that he did indeed text SD and tell her to "not advertise" that they were going shopping for clothes. DH said he was just trying to be "magnanimous" with SD by taking her shopping (we pay for everything, she has a part time job and is not required to contribute one penny to school expenses, cell phone, car insurance, etc etc AND she is the one who has never given me an xmas gift while I do all the gift buying for her), and DH said I was being petty. I know that he is being defensive and trying to turn the tables. Also SD posted a picture of herself on social media wearing one of my shirts and when i texted asked her where she got it first she said I gave it to her (I knew this was not true) then she admitted she took it and apologized and said she'd give it back. Yes kudos to her for at least apolgizing but as usual I was the victum yet DH could only say how wonderful SD was for her heartfelt apology!
So in summary DH is blaming everything on me and my bad attitude. Am I losing my mind?