It has been almost a year since I talked to my two step daughters. They were rude and toxic and I'm just not going to put up with it. They aren't allowed in our home. This all started because I stood up for my husband. Well guess what? I was then the bad guy and they aren't mad at him. They are mad at me. He has not bothered to talk to them about how they acted. Yes they are in their 20's now but he could have said something. I regret taking up for him. This is taking a toll on our marriage and I know it's only going to be worse. I am a little sad all of this happened but mostly I just feel peace. If I had known this step parent king thing was going to be like this, I would never have married him. 18 years of hell!