Update on the 25.00 gift card saga!!
Okay so get this: SS sends me an e-mail that says Here's a link to see wedding photos and by the way for Christmas this year here are a few ideas for me and new SD-in -law "money or gifts cards would work best for us as we can't haul alot of big stuff back south with us when we come for Christmas". So YES I did! I e-mailed back I already have your gift It's a 25.00 gift card to BB&B and I hit send knowing exactly what kind of war I was about to start. His response was "WOW just WOW I already discussed this situation with my father and all I have to say about you is Just WOW" I emailed back "You know what that's pretty much what I was thinking when I was watching everyone open their expensive personalized gifts at the rehearsal dinner and I got a 25.00 freakin gift card, so Wow just wow back at you leave your father out of this one This is between you and me". I laid out my feelings and told him the ball was in his court. He said he and the new SD-in -law had planned on buying me something REALLY nice at some point to make it up to me after his dad let him have it BUT now they were going to cancel that idea. Hey I said whatever dude! I am putting my foot down right now cuz as far as I am concerned instead of me getting treated better we seem to be adding people to this family that don't give a S*&t about me and this is where it ends right here right now!!! ! I told him he screwed up he knew he was dong it while he was doing it and he owed me an apology, and I wanted a heartfelt and sincere apology or take SD-in-law and move on! He called me 1 hour later and he apologized!! At first he was a little hesitant and was kind of feeling around for a place to place blame and I cut him off at every turn. My new NO more BULL policy is working everyone!! So we eneded the conversation with both of us in tears and him saying that he never really looked at it from my point of view and now he sees alot of things he could have done differently. POINT of this long story, Stop tlaking to DH's about the kids if they are old enough and talk directly to them about their behavior! Demand respect form them and lay the issue at their feet , make them handle it and bring you back a solution! If there is hope for me there is hope for everyone! Chin-up Steps!!!