Trying to find Symmetry
I currently reside alone in my home but have had a G/F for a year now who stays over several nights a week. I have an adult daughter who is in college. The child comes home on college breaks and resides with me also at the home. The daughter and G/F for the most part generally get along and communicate well with each other. They have many similar interest and are somewhat simlar in nature as in very sensitive and emotional. Prior to the G/F, it was just the daughter and I for many years and the daughter became very accustomed to things as the G/F puts it, her and I against the world.
The G/f and daughter have recently not been getting along and somewhat standoffish to each other. The daughter thinks that 'things are not the same' since the G/F has been around recently and says that she is a 'guest' in her home. The G/F thinks the relationship is contingent on if the daughter will allow and that a 19 y/o 'calls the shots' and she also feels that the she is also a 'guest' only in the home and that the daughter doesn't allow her to have 'her space' within the home or respect boundries.
A lot more I could write into this but I didn't want to vom,it too much out of the gate.
Just tired of balancing two seperate emotions from 2 different people. Absolutley love them both, but somehow I need them both to understand that I love them both and they both feel appreciated and that they get noticed and I spend quality time with them both while I still have a full time job with OT hours.