Thoughts please on bio mom gets in my space
I would like your thoughts on a recent action of BM getting in my space.
A little background. My husband and myself are victims of BM PAS. At current time my MSD26 has not talked to us in five years now. My YSS21 is on round two of not talking with us and the OSD28 went over a year without talking to us and therefore we did not get two see our one year old grandson for a year & a half and the OSD also had another son during this time that I did not see for first year of his life. We knew OSD was pregnant before the estrangement and were told what they planned on naming the baby which included my DH's surname. (Needless to say the surname got dropped). We are currently working on having a relationship although DH walks on egg shells for fear she will abandon him again. The MSD has two kids we have never seen. We certainly have done nothing that should give us the relationship death sentence. In fact the MSD invited me to her first childs baby shower at the BM's. I really didn't want to go as I was fearful they would take pot shots at me during the shower. My DH was concerned it would be a slap in MSD's face for me not to go. So I decided to go and I made a beautiful diaper tricycle which in itself had many gifts. I went to the shower and must say I prayed the whole way there. (I am a christian and really do pray). To my complete surprise the shower was very nice and everyone (including BM) were very kind. In face BM gave me a hug good bye when I left. On my way home I thanked God that everything went so well. That was five years ago and I have not talked with MSD or BM since. Anyway there is real PAS going on.
Okay, now to what I would like from you. My OSD28 invited me via a social media to attend a public music gathering at a local park. She also invited BM. I graciously declined as I do not want to be anywhere near BM. Later OSD talked to my DH and told him BM would most likely not be going so DH tells her we will go so that we can see the grandsons. The day of the event while we are on our way we get a text message that says BM will be going but later on in the day. I feel that BM found out we were going and decided to go and of course she did not wait till later in the day she high-tailed it up there. When I got there I sat down on the ground with my sister-n-law who went with us. The place is pretty crowed. BM shows up and walks by and say hi to me & I admit I ignored her. Like I said, I want nothing to do with her. So she gets closer, leans down and puts her smiling face within 6 to 8 inches from my nose saying Hiiiiiiii. I just stare at her for a good moment and then turn my head away. She walks off then meanders back and starts a conversation with my SIL who was sitting on the ground right next to me. She says OH! I didn't see you and then chats away with my SIL. She talks to a few others right there in my area then she leaves and I don't see her again. My DH was a talking with the OSD. We stay for a short time and then we also get ready to leave give all our good byes. My DH tells me that OSD (btw she is expecting her third son) told him what the newest grandson's name would be. She is giving the newest grandson my DH first name. I was so excited as I felt she would never do that because BM would really hate that. Later my SIL lets me know that my OSD came up to her during the good byes and thanked her for talking to her mom. BM had gotten upset because I did not talked to her and had to run to her daughter and whine about me and leave because she was so upset.
So I ask you what are your thoughts?