Those secret phone calls...
How many of you know your husband/SO communicates regularly with his kids but it's never in front of you?
It's just so weird. It's as if he has a girlfriend on the side. If I went by the contact I hear, SD wouldn't even exist. In summer, when my husband isn't working, he's in the garden early in the morning talking to her. Some mornings I stay inside because I feel like I'd be intruding if he knows I know he's talking to her! Everyday on the way to work, they talk. When he goes to get our takeout or to the store, he calls her. Sometimes I wonder if the only reason he's going to the store is to call SD.
Am I such a monster that he can't talk to his precious daughter in my presence? Is it so I don't overhear something and confront him? What is being cooked up that must be discussed daily on the sly?
The secret calls have been a decade-long thing now. He says as he gets older, just discussing SD makes him feel worse and worse. We hardly ever discuss her since I disengaged and told him two years ago that I DON'T want to discuss her.
How do the secret calls make you feel? What's your read on them? Did you ever confront your husband/SO about his secret calls to skids? What did he say?
This is not a huge deal to me. But I just wonder what it's all about. Does he think not communicating with her in front of me will make me think she doesn't exist? Or does he feel guilty talking to someone who has been so shitty to me?