Struggling Childless Stepmom
Feeling really unsettled again today basically I have been with DH for 25 years. I have known SD since she was 18 months. DH was never really a family man although stepped up after his divorce and became a good part time parent in that he saw her weekly and provided financially.
I was obviously there during a lot of contact and was always kind, caring and friendly.
However as she has gotten older I feel that she is jealous and resents me. Whenever I go out with her and DH occasionally, she makes it obvious that she only wants to talk to him and gain his attention. For this reason I encourage him to go alone.
Well here is the thing as DH has gotten older he finally acknowledges the importance of family. He now hopes to spend more time with her and wants me on board. I think he is trying to become more involved for when she finally settles down and has a family. I honestly don’t want this and still want to keep my distance. I have tried to tell him nicely several times that we’re just not that close especially as BM has completely monopolised her. However he just doesn’t seem to get it!
I haven’t got children myself which I find incredibly difficult and painful as it is (DH couldn’t and didn’t want anymore when we met). His spoilt, resentful daughter will never be any substitute.
This situation is making me feel depressed and is putting a strain on our otherwise happy marriage. I just don’t know what to do? Any advice would be really helpful thank youx