You know the SS who told DH I was dragging in around by the B@lls because DH went with me to DS's Army graduation. Seems his and SDIL's friend from high school was having a birthday party for her daughter so of course SS can come to town for that but can't be bothered to come to holiday's or DH's birthday.

Bad timing on SS's part it was my birthday weekend. When he first showed up I was gone picking my DD up from college for the weekend. I get home and DH said SS, SDIL, and SGD came by. I was surprised and said why and he said they were going to a party and got town an hour early so they stopped by. He was happy he got to play with SGD and said he told them to come back by afterwards. :sick: I wasn't too pleased since I didn't want to see SS but DH said "I asked SGD if she wanted to see grandma later and she said yes." So I replied I would like to see SGD not to worried about seeing SS or SDIL. LOL Well my daughter really wanted to see SGD so she text SS saying she was home and would like to see them and SS replied they would try to come back.

Well a few hours later they stop back by. By this time all my kids were home to spend the night for my birthday (except the son in the army) and we were all sitting around the dinning room table just talking and hanging out. SS comes in and seems surprised to see us all there. He pretended like that hateful text never happened and came up and hugged me and said happy birthday. Here's where it get weird. Me and my DD tried to talk to SGD5 and every time we said something SDIL would distract SGD so she couldn't answer us. DH and SS walk outside to look at the brisket DH has on the smoker and SDIL takes SGD into a totally different room than me and my kids. It was noticeable because no one else was in the living room and she took SGD in there. My daughters and I looked at each other confused and then followed }:) . I sit down and SGD comes up to me and I asked if she wanted me to make her a blanket for Christmas and pull out my phone to show her a pictures. SDIL jumps up grabs her hand and says lets go see daddy and grandpa and walks outside. My daughters and I were so confused!!!! We stayed inside about 15 minutes then followed everyone outside and started the fire pit joining in with DH and SS's conversation. DH is out there telling them about the cook out we are having for my birthday and invites them to stay the night. SDIL jumps in saying she has to work the next day when DH asked when she said 5pm! DH looked at her and flat out said "well then that's not a reason not to stay is it". LOL Gotta love my husband! SDIL started pushing to leave at that point and they left not long after. DH noticed the behavior and while it was nice they stopped by and we attempted to be welcoming and even invited them to stay SDIL made it very apparent she did not want to be there and did not want me or my children around SGD.

I honestly feel that SDIL's behavior was a direct result of the females in Dh's family trying to exclude me and my daughter's from the family. SDIL's brother is married to MSD and she is the one I have the most difficulty with. This is typical behavior for the females in DH's family but most the time SDs around also so they form a pack to exclude me and my children. This time SDIL was without the pack. Really reminded me of this post that I have saved because it hit close to home https://www.steptalk.org/node/61081 However it seems the tables are turning in my direction finally. DH notices the behavior of the females in his family and my daughter's are old enough now that when I'm being shut out I have my own females to hang out with.

I'll admit I backslid some by offering to make SGD a blanket. I miss the grandkids but this visit just reaffirmed I will never be allowed to be a grandmother to them and I need to work on realizing that and save my energy for when I have my own grandchildren. DH, my children, and I went on to have a great birthday weekend.