For the past couple weeks I have tolerated disrespect to avoid confrontation, But yesterday I HAD HAD IT!!!
SS 19 was told to straighten up the livingroom, do some yard work and take out the trash. So when he was done with the livingroom ( which only takes 10 mins) he did not have in mind to vaccume, so I told him don't forget to vaccume, He stood there with a real cocky addittude and said " Ya know, your not the boss of me", I looked up at him as I was cleanng out the Kitty litter box and I said, well I may not be but when your dad asks you to do something and I have to reinforce it I am for the minute. So he started popping off at the mouth and I told him you have no respect me for but your about to learn it real quick in 45 mins( cuz BF would be home from work), Basicly tells me he isn't scared.
Im so pissed and frustrated with the cuts and comments and ANYTHING I tell him even just in plain convo he is cocoky and rude and a total a*s towards me, that same day he put his fist up against my face while I was doing dishes and says what would you do if punched you, I said i'll tell you what I would do..I would tell your dad and he will laye you flat out, CONSTANTLY trying me...consistantly..non fricken stop. So its now about 10mins before BF gets home and were on the front porch, he acts like he is going to kick the dog, our dog is old and sweet and it scared the crap out of her, so I tell him dont be doing that I dont like that and its not right, he tells me he does it all the time playing around with her, I told him I dont like it so dont do it and she didn't look like she seen it as play( as she moved over by me), I told him how mnay times has your father told you not be picking on these animals, he was like..he dont tell me anything.. I said I have heard him and I asked you not to do it. Well anyways, he gets mad..tells me I am just like his BM, In-which I AM FAR from it, and I am thinking if I was you wouldn't be pulling this crap,so I told him no you are like all of them over there( meaning at BM house)because if things don't go your way and you don't get what you want or your told something you get a addittude, he said F*ck this I am leaving. Right about this time BF comes around as SS is walking away and I said where ya going,your dads here now we can talk about it...he kept walking. So I fill in BF and he was pist, SS comes back not even 3mins later and BF says everything all right( seeing what replye SS would give), He says yeah, I am just going to pack my things and leave ( this is suppose to hurt and upset BF of course), So he looks at S and says...then pack..do what you got to do. SS wouldn't even look at BF in the face because he knows he will laye his a*s out. Prior before he left I told him I refuse to argue with him which pissed him off because it showed that I HAVE control and I told him he is not going to stand there and correct me, that if I am wrong about something his father can talk to me about it but he will NOT correct me, he did not like that one bit. So anyways SS has not come home and BF is at work and I know how SS is he will make his way back here when BF is not here. BF told me if he comes back here to call him and he will leave work to deal with him, because I told him if he comes back here I will stay layed up in the bedroom til he gets home because I refuse to deal with him at all at this point in time. BF told me S was looking for a arguement with me,and really... I am tired of it. I told BF if he does not want anyone to tell him what to do then he needs to move out and pay his own bills and no one will. Then BF tells me that S made comment to grandma there that I am against him( SS is a manipulator), that pissed me off, and I told him really...whos against who because he is the one out of line making nasty remarks and comments and asking " what if" gestures and I said because I took a stand for myself now Im out for him, and I told BF kinda like the rest of the kids over at BM right..you correct them and tell them dont do something and now your a as*hole, samething. NONE of the kids like to be told what to do and how to do it and when to do it, and its not like we are dealing with babys here, were talking 16 to 19( SS almost 20), and heaven forbid...FORBID you try to exercise structure and order because you will be told....
" F*CK THIS" and you will be everything but white. This is not like a new relationship with these kids, I been in this for over 6 years, and I am tired of the addittude and SS treating me like I am beneath him and he is in charge and I just have no say what so ever...I am sick of it.He has a nasty chip on his shoulder and unfortunately I am getting the brunt of it.Bf told me he thinks S does not like me because in his mind he thinks BF would be more laid back..like...not have exspectations of him and not set ground rules and stuff, and that SS would be able to do whatever he wants basicly, and he feels I am the wedge between him being able to manipulate BF.