I am just trying to figure out WTF is wrong with this kid, some of her behavior just goes beyond being a selfish spoiled kid and borders on something else...

Currently she is kicked out and living between her grandmother's and her 35yr old loser pervert BF's.

Currently she does not want to move with us to the new house which is GREAT NEWS and if that actually sticks, it is great news for us and avoids a huge issue since I don't want her to move.

However, she has no job, she has a nice car her mom bought her as a graduation present that we now know has no insurance. We suspect that she has no license for some reason and we know she lets her BF drive her car when he also has no license. We know that if she gets pulled over there is a strong likelihood that the car will get impounded and she will either lose it or we have to pay to get it out.

If she loses the car, she is immobile, we live in a rural area with no public transportation so she will be well and truly stuck, or she will harass mom into giving her rides because "how do you expect me to get a job?!?!?".

She screwed off a free college education with room and board.

She fiend a suicide attempt to get out of going into the military after she enlisted.

She says she is looking for a job but she doesn't seem to be DOING a GD thing, she is perfectly content to just hang out at her BFs house or in her grandmothers attic.

At this point no one is "loaning" her money but she still manages to have $$ for cigs and gas.

She has pretty much detached from everyone else, all her old school friends and such and only deals with her mom when she needs something, like needing to come do laundry under the guise of "packing her things" that are still left in her bedroom, of course NONE of that happened, she sat and watched Jersey Shore and ate mom's food and made sure to leave before mom got home, leaving a mess behind.

To me it just looks like a stupid kid that doesn't care about anyone but herself but the lack of forethought of even where she is going to get food on a daily basis is just strange.

On top of that she LIES, LIES , LIES, and they aren't even good, she is an intelligent girl in a general sense but I hear some of the bull she tries and it is almost insulting that she would think anyone would BELIEVE it. Most of her stories are easily disproved by just calling another family member but she doesn't seem to care or think that anyone is going to check her stories.

It just seems to go beyond plain old oblivious selfishness and mom is asking if I think she is using drugs or something because it is starting to get strange.
(ie. She called the other morning, she had walked out the front door of her grandmothers house and forgot her keys, locking herself out, she wanted us to drive 45 mins across town to..... (she didn't get further than that, we don't have a spare key and she knows it), we were already on our way somewhere else and told her NO and pointed out that we didn't have a key anyways, she actually got mad at US for not being willing to drive to her and do.....gawd knows what. So she sat in the driveway in her car for an hour until grandmother got home...) This is a 20yr old (almost) WOMAN thinking this way...