SD27 using DH as last minute babysitter
This has been going on for the whole 10 months of dear little SGS's life .... SD thinks she can call up her Dad at the last minute and ask 'us' to babysit whenever she and her partner decide they want to go out. Last time it happened, I told him not to offer my services for such things, and he's pretty much allowed her to use him - in the fine tradition of her role as his mini-wife.
I have sat back, not offered any advice, and watched him get gradually pissed off at the situation. While he loves spending short periods of time with the baby, he is not into spending 6-8 hours at a time at their place entertaining and feeding him.
So, last night she texted and asked if 'we' would babysit SGS on Christmas Eve for 8 hours while they attend her husband's family gathering, Apparently taking ones baby to a family party is not their scene. DH read out the text to me, I just sat there a little stunned, and he suddenly said 'right then, time to have a proper talk with her'. The only thing I said was, does she not think that perhaps we have other plans for Xmas Eve?
The real problem for me is, BM has just announced she is COViD positive - she babysits the SGS frequently and mixes in thir household, and now they are trying to continue socialising and dumping a child who,could be a disease vector in our safe space. We are in our 60's and have tried really hard to avoid unnecessary exposure. SD knows this. I hope he finally clarifies some boundaries.