SD25 and DH metastatic cancer
thanks in advance for any advice. My SD25 historically has had all the usual textbook issues with me despite my best efforts.
after DH was diagnosed, she has been very nice and our relationship seemed healed. (Yes I am that gullible!)
just recently she has been very cold disrespectful and never visits her dad or calls him. I have always updated her personally with any health info
so she would hear it from us directly. i dont know what set her off, tho i suspect it could be something very simple as it doesnt take much and everyones emotions
are running high given the dire situation we are in.
DH has never really stuck up for me to her so her bad behavior continues now into young adulthood. I lost my mom to cancer at her same age so i do know
a little of what it is like to go thru, and when my mom was sick you could not keep me away from her, i was with her every moment possible that i wasnt working or
traveling to see her. SD has time and opportunity and never visits DH tho she claims she adores him, makes him special gifts etc.
She also has this uber annoying pattern of making her boyfriend's family (whatever boyfriend it is, currently she has been with one for 3 years), her "primary" family.
she goes to all their family traditions and events, and visits his siblings on weekends etc. its ludicrous. I have had to listen to her say crap like "Christmas is very important
to The Jones"... WTF!? As if its NOT important to us? She has an idealistic vision about everything how it should look, like im not martha stewart enough.
im on the disengage path, but with what is in front of me regarding my husbands illness, i just cannot escape dealing with her. HELP!