SD in difficult situation - Advice Needed
Hello and thanks to each of you! I have been on this site for several years learning from each of you. What a blessing it has been! I have learned so much and avoided drama and heartache because of it.
This is my first post and I am hoping for advice on a difficult situation. History- DH and I have been married 9.5 years and I have a DD 29, a SS 26, a SD 30 and a SD 19. Both SD’s are alienated from my husband and have no relationship with me or my daughter. BM is very antagonistic towards both my DH and I.
The current situation is that SD is involved with a boyfriend that is a drug dealer and has introduced her to marijuana and now Methamphetamines. He is also abusing her.
Needless to say, DH is very upset and worried about her welfare and life. He has contacted her and has determined where they are now living. He wants to go get her and force her to go to rehab.
I have always been supportive of his efforts in trying to maintain a relationship with both girls even though it is pretty one-sided. This though, I cannot support, mainly because until SD wants to change her life, it won’t happen, but also because since she is considered an adult DH has no authority over her. I am also concerned about the violent nature of the boyfriend who reportedly has a gun and has a bad reputation with the local sheriff. I don’t want my DH in danger.
I have just been listening to DH and trying to be sympathetic without being negative. I have shared my opinion that SD needs to want help and that it cannot be forced on her. DH understands this and agrees with it in his head, but his heart is having a very difficult time with this situation.
I am asking for advice on how to support DH. If anyone has experience or other advice, I am very open to it.
My apologies for the long post and thank you in advance.