Reaping what you sow, SO, reaping what you sow
Just a vent.
SD30 STILL does not reach out to her father and he STILL mopes around when he doesn't hear from her. (I am completely disengaged from her but like many of us on here, I often suffer the repercussions due to my SO's mood when he is affected by her.)
When he gets mopey, I know it's because he probably is playing his old, "I'm going to wait and see if she contacts me." game. You know...the game he ALWAYS loses because she will never make the call/text/contact! So week after week goes by, she makes no effort to contact him, no updates or information about his grandson, nothing.
He mopes and gets more and more depressed but won't come out and say it. God forbid he indicate that Princess is less than perfect.
Today, I flat-out told him that he must face up to the fact that his daughter fully expects HIM to make all efforts at communication with her and that will never, ever change. He needs to either realize that and make all the effort from now on, or expect to never hear from her. I left it at that. He said nothing.
I was kind enough to not tell him what else I was thinking: "Your daughter is a self-absorbed b!tch (she's an adult and I feel free to think of her that way now) who doesn't give a shit about you. She doesn't give a shit if you never have a relationship with your grandson, because it's ALL about her, it's always been about her, and it will be about her all the time. YOU raised her to believe she walked on water and deserved to be worshipped her whole life simply because she had the misfortune to develop health issues. (Health issues which many other people live with yet can still be decent human beings, BTW.) She has been coddled and spoiled to such an extent that her entitlement and self-absorption is almost criminal. YOU created this selfish monster and are now suffering the result.
I don't know. I guess the older I get and the longer I've been at this step-game, the less inclined I am to hold my tongue anymore.