Adult Stepdaughter is now 19 years old , lives with her mum and has been on furlough throughout lockdown from her part time job. DH and I have a joint account for bills, then one for my money and one for his money. I've taken a 65% paycut since the start of lockdown but been working since the start.
SD had a travel allowance from husband pre lockdown to help her get to uni, it was agreed on by both of us at the time to support her. Since the start of lockdown she's been rude, demanding and her already out of control social media addiction has got out of control. She's basically been getting her baps out for an audience of overseas random men that she's been gathering as followers using her public profile. I've had a ding-dong with her after she published identifying photos of our home and her location etc (Think showing off trying to make herself look good but inviting burglars to our house) She's now ignoring me and blocked me. Not a problem at all, we've got security, it's just really disrespectful to plaster the details of MY home online.
She's your classic abusive step daughter. if she doesnt get her own way with my husband she punishes him by witholding contact, she rallies the rest of the family against him (Grandma is always on her side stroking her ego, this is a big problem) and eventually she'll rock up for anything we're paying for, a meal out, a holiday etc. He caves, I sit there fuming at her general sense of entitlement and rudeness.
She's now started bleating to my husband that she needs work done on her car and I can see him starting to crack. He's started mentioning starting her "allowance again, just to help her out". Hell no. She's 19 years old, hasnt lifted so much as a brain cell since June when Uni ended and hasnt left her front door except to go and break lockdown regs partying with her friends. That does not need a petrol allowance. She could go and get a part time job tomorrow for the summer , they're still recruiting round here and she has 3 months off before she returns to uni.
Meanwhile I'm currently earning less than my husband (normallly I earn more) and insisting he tells her that our household income has taken a hit and she needs to learn a bit of respect. Respect the family values and you get a bit of respect back.
Any thoughts anyone? I appreciate I'm stuck with a Daddy's girl (I read the article on her earlier) and probably just left to grit my teeth and bear it.