O/T. ex and engagement ring issue
My ex husband and I have been divorced for almost 20 years. It is a distant but civil relationship we have now. We touch base once a year or so - usually with family news like deaths, births, etc. He is remarried (3rd wife) but has never had children. His family's females(mother, sisters in law) were never friendly or welcoming to me - pretty much ignored me or were bitchy our whole marriage
When we got engaged he gave me a ring that had been in his family awhile. By law, it belongs to me. I have no children either. I decided to list his eldest niece who I knew as a kid back then (and who now has a daughter of her own) as getting the ring when I die. I figure it will get back in the family's hands that way and avoid going to his 3rd wife or bitchy sisters, etc.
I have not told my ex this as I feel it's none of his business what's in my will or quite frankly, what I do with the
ring since its my legal property. But he has now asked me if I still have the ring and if I have any plans to give it back to his family.
What should I tell him?