OSD rude and furious with DH (most likely me)
For Mother's Day I received a beautiful bouquet of flowers from YSD, with a Mother's Day card saying that she's thinking of me, loves me, etc...
I called her immediately to say thank you, she was very pleased that I was pleased, said I totally deserve them and so on
I also wanted to post a picture of them on FB to my friends and family, but as always, worried if wind of that got to OSD she would create a problem
DH encouraged me to post something however. He said since OSD wasn't friends with me on FB, she wouldn't know. When I told him YSD is friends with me on FB and OSD would see it if she liked or commented, DH then said too bad for OSD. That he actually hoped she would see it. That YSD did something nice for me, and if I wanted to send out a notice about it he could care less how OSD felt about it
I thought about that, and decided that I was done letting what OSD thinks and does effect my decisions any longer. I mean, she chose to have no relationship with me, she made it clear she doesn't want one, and I've respected her choice.
However, she also seems to feel she can dictate my relationship with YSD, and she doesn't have the right to go that far
So, I posted a picture of the flowers on FB saying how thoughtful of YSD, that she was a sweetheart, etc......YSD loved it (both DH and YSD love it when I brag to my own family and friends about how great YSD is LOL)
So all was well. Or so I thought
The other day DH tells me he had called OSD and she was really rude, abrupt, and aloof with him. He was just trying to talk with her about her house, as he learned from FIL she had sold her home, and bought a new one (in the very town we had originally been thinking of moving to but it was too far) all last week.
DH also told me she rudely said she wasn't coming to our housewarming party....this is after she had already previously confirmed she would be there along with SSIL and SGS's
I suggested that maybe it had nothing to do with him, she had a lot going on with her life right now between selling her home and all, and that maybe she was just having a bad day like we all do from time to time
DH said no, she was really nasty and he was not happy about it.
He said there was nothing he has done, or could think of that could have ticked her off so much since the last time he and OSD talked
The only thing we can think of, is she is furious about my post about YSD
DH mentioned again that he could care less if that's what she's upset about.
And there is no point in DH actually asking OSD what she is upset about, whenever he has done this in the past she refuses to say, but cuts him off as she has been doing. And that usually follows that rude, nastiness to him & I on any occasions we might talk with her
For my part, I have nothing to say to her so I don't really care.
DH is quite ticked off at her though.
Should I have not posted anything on FB, even thought DH and YSD love when I do, just to avoid the possibility of OSD thinking we were poking at her? Or, should I just live my life and stop letting her tantrums dictate what I do?