Manipulative hateful adult stepdaughter
My adult stepkids haven’t spoken to their dad since May. (Short story they are horrible human beings)
Two weeks ago the SD texted her dad that she wanted to have an “honest” conversation with him and wanted to call him. His reply was that their conversation needed to be in person, not over the phone. This did not go over well, she stated she didn’t have time to coordinate an in person talk for a few weeks.. his response was whenever she was ready - which created an awful text message saying she didn’t need him and how dare him not even apologize to her for her perception of how he acted six months prior. He didn’t respond to the attack.
She called last week, but didn’t leave a message. She called tonight and left a message basically saying she had tried to call him, but if he couldn’t take the time to talk to her, she didn’t need him. She waited about five minutes and called back, he answered. What ensued was a half hour lecture from a 24 year old on how awful a dad he is, how jealous she is of my kids and once she got it all out of her system - it was “oh by the way, I’m pregnant and she in July”.
Thats how she ended the call. My husband was devastated, definitely NOT how he wanted to find out about his first grandchild (she’s been married 4 years).
Now comes the pregnancy hormones and the yo-yo life they drag my husband through.
We sat down after that call and made a list of things that he could work on - for setting boundaries and how to make his life with his kids healthy - Communication being the top of the list. His next step is to tell both kids they need family counseling. All of this without me - I’m just the person he can come home to that is on his side.
Their relationship didn’t get in this mess overnight and won’t get fixed overnight.
I am just done with the hateful daughter.