Lose the cliches
I love my dh. I do, but as all of us, he has a few flaws........cliches.. Ugh!! This weekend was the usual....."I hope you do not have to walk in my shoes..." Blah blah blah. I only married a man with a thoroughly dysfunctional family.. So bad he has been sued by his adult daughters in court numerous times, and there is no contact for years. But I digress.....
Mercifully the youngest graduates college next year, still on our dime so to speak. We live in a state that we now are fearful she will sue him to continue to pay for grad school.
So we have a tradition of going to a conference together every year. I see it falls on her graduation weekend.. Her college is a good 8 to 10 hour drive. Dh says he is going to her graduation.......basically will just show his face and leave. I will not accompany him..my choice! I said that I am disappointed, but I will respect his decision..I think it wrong, unless of course there is a real desire on his daughter's part to reach out to her father..
I did tell him that if she does not allow emancipation at graduation, but sues him for grad school, and he still goes to her graduation, I will have a hard time ever finding respect for him. He does think if we are back in court again, he will not go. Ugh!!
But I hate the cliche........try walking in a spouses shoes who sees thousands of dollars go to parasitic adults?
Anyway, I think we handled it well. I will enjoy my conference. He will do what he needs to do...
A lot can happen in a year!