I would be really grateful of any help you guys can provide as im at my wits end!
Its a little "long winded" but i will try and tell the impartial story so an accurate opinion is possible.
Im 35 years old, from London, England and am currently living with my Mexican wife and StepDaughter here in Monterrey, Mexico.
I have known my wife for 5 years, i used to travel a lot with work and we met whilst i was here in Mexico. We stayed boyfriend / girlfriend for 2 years and then i was offered a very good job as Director of a Country Club here in Mexico which i chose to accept. We got married in July 07.
My wife comes from a poor background, has been married before (when she was 18 and is now 35) and has a 16 year old daughter from her 1st marriage. She does work, has her own hair dressing company although this is currently going downhill and not making any money. They have lived all their life in the poor area of Mexico, never had money for vacations / presents / nice things etc.
I am very ambitous and want the best for my wife and her family. Since i have been here, we live in a nice house in the best Area of the City, i brought my wife a brand new Mercedes, Louis Vuitton bags, nice clothes etc and last year she had 6 vacations (inc. 2 with her dauther) all paid for by me because i want the best for her.
In return, i get nothing. Sometimes, a "thank you" but not always. When its my birthday / Christmas i normally get a present but not always.
Ok....to the problem! The StepDaughter barely even says "hello" to me, in the last 2 weeks for example, she has said hello 2 times. At the start, i always used to come in to the house, "hey, how are you?" and she would say "good" "how was your day?" "fine" "what did you do at school?" "nothing"....... you get the picture.
This went on for 2 years, then i gave up and now i say "hi" and thats it as it just makes me stressed and angry.
On February 14th, at 9pm my wife found out she was pregnant with our 1st child! I was delighted, ecstatic...at 930pm the same day, the daughter announced she was also pregnant.... i felt like i was in a movie.
Well, for good or bad, the daughter had an termination and my wife is currently 5 months pregnant and (touch wood) all is fine.
My wife defends the daughter to the death, goes against me when im clearly right and will not speak to her daughter to try and bring just a little discipline into the house....she is scared of her own daughter.
So, to conclude. I provide absolutely everything both financially and emotionally, i want the best for them and work 14 hour days to provide them with the best life-style i can. They get everything they want and i like that....but all i expect in return is a "how was your day" or a "thank you" and i get zero and i cant take any more!!! Am i unreasonable????????????????
Guys, if you have got this far, thank-you for reading and your opinion, i assure you, is most appreciated!
Take care, J