I'm Still Here - H Is Still at the Extended Stay Motel
Yep, told him to look for an apartment but he thinks things are going to go right back on track.
Let him come over the day after Thanksgiving for coffee and to talk, and DD was there for my support.
He is all upset, and looks it, doesn't want us to split up etc. I told him that Twit had called Thanksgiving and I DID answer her call and told her you were not here as I had thrown you out......that she got what she wanted as I provided you with a one way ticket to Twitville. Funny, I wasn't nasty, just talked normal but factual, no yelling or nastiness on my part.
I have to say, I never heard Twit speachless before. She was SHOCKED and said you mean Dad is coming HERE! What am I (being Twit) going to do with him? My response was that was not my problem and I hung up.
He knew about it as evidently she had called him telling him what I had said and asking him if it were true. Evidently she doesn't think it is right for him to go back to Twitville and he should stay and work it out. She'd be in touch. Sounds like she is writing him off right now....a don't call me, I'll call you thingy. but not my problem.
Saw counselor Thursday and told all. She asked how I felt about what I said to Twit. My response was just fine and some shock that I was so calm as I did so. That was good, counselor said. As she didn't get me all upset about her call etc.
She also agreed that it sounded like Twit wasn't keen about taking dear ole Dad into her home on a permanent basis, or even having to help him if he got an apartment around her. THAT is not her style. She never helps you....you are only there to help her and feel her ego so she feels good.
She can't talk about it with me, but I know that H has made an appointment to talk to her. I told her to knock some sense into his thick head about what this Twit stuff is and has done to me.
Have not talked to a lawyer yet as I want to be certain this marriage can't be saved. I have just shy of 25 years invested in it. And H is a good man, doesn't drink to excess, smoke, etc. Is smart, informed, generally honest (except about Twit).
Counselor says that it is good I am not just jumping at divorce. Though she is concerned about the stress his daughter has put me under and concerned about some of the instances where she has gotten physical. Counselor says Twit LOVES and thrives on control. Told her about Twit's three losers and how she is now all upset with her new daughter-in-law because the young lady isn't bowing low enough to the QUEEN. That is one of the things she calls and cries to H about.
I am seeing H tomorrow for a movie and dinner, but he can't come to my home. I will meet him.