I really need help figuring this outPOd
Please help me figure this out. SD has stepped up her game. She has accused me of abusing my husband and that she is now here to protect him from me. I am not an abusive person. Anyone who knows me knows that. I confronted DH and told him that she has taken it over the top and there is no going back. She is falsely accusing me of something very serious. I told either he gets her out of the middle of our marriage or he needs to leave . I am done with her games. She crossed a line. I was abused by my first husband and I will not take lightly someone accusing of abusing my husband. It is a lie. She is trying to come between my husband and myself.
I stand by what I said I will not stay in a marriage with SD planted in the middle like this.
I come home from work today and DH left a letter On my bed. It goes into what love is in the Bible. How we need to all forget the past and start a new. That mistakes have been made and we need to forgive and move on.
I called my husband and said who is this letter supposed to be for. He say us and his 2 kids.
So, here is my take on it. He has never been treated poorly by anyone in my family including my 3 kids. He has always been welcomed with open arms. He has never never felt any alienation, brutal cruelty or been made the target of two narcissistic human beings.
I have been bullied, slandered, isolated, and abused for 15 years. His children have never never once in their lives with me or anyone else ever been held accountable for any of their actions. So now I am suppose just forgive 15 years of abuse? I am suppose to just forgive being acused of abusing my husband? DH is giving his kids another chance to never be held accountable for any actions.
I am so far past wanting any kind of relationship which these sick, mean, narcissistic human beings that DH and BM failed at parenting.
Just because DH as the couselor said made his child believe that they are God like. Does not mean the rest of the population of the world agree.
So I told DH if he wants a marriage with me make it about him and I. Concentrate on Us. Not them. Remove them from our marriage. You want to write me a letter make it about HIM and I. We are the 2 people in this marriage.
As long as his children are never held accountable for i actions I do not want any kind of interaction with them at all. They do not have a free pass to abuse me and move on.
Even in AA or any other 12 step program people have to make restitutions to the people the hurt. They don’t get a free pass. DH is just looking for another free pass for his abusive children.
If DH does not want to hold his POS accoumtable to him for the abuse he has taken from them that is his choice. He cannot others to accept that from them
Am I looking at this the right way?