I DONT want her to come!
Background story is ...I havent been to my home country in 14 Years...we might be able to go this year in summer...In the past DH told SD19 that she would be coming too...and ut might pop up again....The thing Is...I dont want her to come....if you see my other posts...She was heavily alienated by BM...We have NO relationship...she doesnt even say Hi to me....She has a Lot of issues she needs to DEAL with...but she isnt really dealing ...or trying to get help...We went see DH family last summer...It was SO stresfull to be around her...she tried to say Everyone was abandoning her...Well when you sleep well past NOON...what do you expect??
Ive known her for 14 Years...never...not ONCE has she asked about my culture...my country...my family...
In my opinion This is NOT a trip for her to bond with Me...which is what DH has in mind I think...This trip is about ME re-bonding with my family who I havent seen in a LONG tims...and for My kids to meet my side of the family
I dont want to bring SD and her issues with me on this trip!
It will be TOO stressfull as it is...let alone bringing a troubled...reserved...super serious, anxious young adult to a foreign country...that my DH will do anything to Please
Is this Unreasonable??
It's been all about HER.. Ive given everything I had to DH and DS..I Need this trip to be about Me and DH and bio kids getting to know my family
SD doesnt give a fuck about me...Let alone meeting my fam...Ive waited so long to go and i dont want her BS to wreck it...like she did when we visited DH family...She doesnt speak the language..and there is no wifi Everywhere for her...I can just see what a disaster it will be! Ugh! She is 19...she does NOT need to tag along everywhere we go does she??